Since our kids have ventured off to school, I have been
|1st day of school in 2011|
|1st day of 8th grade in 2011|
As our kids approached the junior and high school years, they became more apt to use those one word answer options: great, good, bad, stupid. To get them back into proper communications it is necessary to ask open ended questions.
|Tired after first bus ride home of 2011.|
Bud is quite the talker while Darlin', on the other hand, needs to be coaxed a bit more. She always roll her eyes at me when I ask if anyone in her class is dating. Lo and behold, the other day she comes up to me and asks enthusiastically, "Mom, guess who the latest couple in our class is?" Wish I had taken a picture of her shock when I nailed it on the first guess! Pays to keep those lines of communication open, if for nothing else than to see the look of proud amazement on her face, mixed with possible fear at the prospect that her mother really does have eyes everywhere. (Never mind the fact that I happened to see the new couple a few days earlier at a local pizza joint! But I digress....)
As I mentioned above, Bud is more apt to share the ample details of his day. I know that I am quite the fortunate mom, to have a fourteen year old son who actually talks! Over the years, my "How was school?" question has helped me find out a lot about his day and how he is fairing with teachers and friends.
One of my favorite memories was when he was in fourth grade. Picking him up from school, I inquired about his day only to discover to my horror that he had had a book report due which we both had forgotten about. As I began to get upset, he consoled me with, "Don't worry, Mom. I got an A." Apparently, it had been an oral presentation, so all he did was borrow a few items from friends as a costume and just talked about the book. His first experience winging it and he's rewarded with an A!
Could it be that a simple question of "How was school?" can open up doors of communication to last a lifetime? That is my hope and the reason for repeating this one over the years.
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